Parenting Tips for Toddlers
There are many parents who don’t know how to talk to their toddlers. Knowing some parenting tips for toddlers would do them good. They simply say that they cannot communicate with them. It’s interesting how much our children rely their perceptions about themselves on how we perceive them. They have the tendency to listen to you but if there is anything wrong with your toddler’s personality in 90% of the cases it means that you are doing something wrong. Don’t entirely blame it on yourself but you must know that you have determined his behaviour in a great measure. This may be a harsh thing to acknowledge but in order to change anything in your little one’s personality you first must recognize it. Here are some parenting tips for toddlers:
1. Show your love
Children are love sponges. They crave for love and attention, for spending time with you and for genuinely communicating with you. They don’t just want to talk with you, they want you to show them your concern. They want to be important persons for you. If you are too busy at work then you should spend more time with your toddler. The childhood is the most important period in one’s life because there are established the foundations for the later on personality. Do you love your child? Show this to him everyday.
2. Accept your child
Don’t assume that he should behave in a different way just like that. Think deeper. Why do you think he has personality issues? He had a blank mind when he came in this world and you could have written on it whatever you wanted. You must educate him properly, invest your time and energy for it. Love and education are not synonyms nor antonyms. They make part of the family lexical field and don’t exclude each other. As such, start reading some early childhood education articles in order to know how to start your child’s education as soon as possible. You may think that your child is too young for education, but it is during this period of their life that you must build the foundation of their education. If you read the latest early childhood education articles, you will see that there have been numerous studies which proved the importance of providing a good education for children during their early childhood.
3. Minimize rules
Sometimes a few “friendship rules” are necessary but don’t exaggerate. You should have a continuous communication with your toddler in order for him to feel appreciated and safe enough to be opened to your suggestions, pieces of advice and positive criticism.
4. Watch your mouth
This is one of the most important parenting tips for toddlers. Your mouth is the one that hurts him the most. Basically in brief it’s your brain’s fault. But luckly you can stop those words right on time if you know that they might hurt him. You may think about those words but do not let him know what you are thinking because in such moments you have no inspiration for sympathy. Stay calm, don’t traumatize your child. Watch your words when you criticize him. Criticism can kill one’s curiosity and personality. You know that saying: sticks and stones may break our bones but words will break our hearts. At this age your toddler imitate very much the people that he spends time with. His behavior is the average of the three persons that he spends the most of his time with. Here is an example for how much the words can influence our behavior:
An unruly child was taken to psychoanalyst by their parents because they felt that they lost any trace of control over him. After many sessions the psychoanalyst discovered why he had this kind of behavior. Among other “insignificant” things, the child told the psychoanalyst what his father said to him: “I don’t understand how a child can have no good in him, no positive feature, none”. Apparently this idea was implemented subconsciously in his mind by his father and now he didn’t have any reason to improve his behavior. The psychoanalyst noticed that he had a passion for sculpture and did this thing very beautifully. The child had carved in the furniture that he had at home but his parents had punished him for this. The psychoanalyst tried to cultivate and encourage the abilities that were not developed enough to be noticeable by any busy stressed man. One day the child cleaned his room by himself without anyone telling him to do that. When the psychoanalyst asked him why did he do that, the child replied “I thought you would like that”. It’s so touching how care and real connections transform our mind and behavior!